Red hat Club by Haywood Smith

Written in 2004, it’s about friendship that lasts a lifetime and the binds that keep them that way.
Tradition, loyalty, rules, dinners, and secrets.
It’s about five middle-aged women, ‘Georgia, teeny, Susu, Diane, and Linda’ that have been friends for over 26 years In Atlanta. It shows their past, their present, and how they have been able to stay friends.
They have 12 traditions, my favorite is the 1st, then 3rd, and the 5th.
The first is the do-over rule- which is no matter how awkward or invasive or angry things get, anyone can request a do-over.
The 3rd is the No lies rule- you can decide not to tell, but no lies
The fifth is mind your own business.
These traditions help them be there for each other without being too invasive or coming on too strong. And their monthly lunch jokes were sometimes funny but mostly necessary to dispel awkwardness.
I, a firm believer in friendships, really appreciated it, and it taught me somethings that would have taken a few friendships to realize. Friendships need boundaries and private spaces and secrets to thrive. Friendship is not based on how much of a person you know but how much you are willing to sacrifice without seeing the full picture.
Sometimes, that can be taken for granted or taken advantage of, but it doesn’t mean it’s not a beautiful thing.
I loved hearing their story from Georgia’s point of view, And I thought that Diane was a hero for letting herself see and admit what was really going on with Harold (her prick of a husband).
Something most of us are afraid to do.
Teeny Is something special; in fact they all are.
I learned a lot of life lessons, but what I really resonated with was when Georgia realized that she loves her husband in the only way that counts.
Sometimes we are too stuck in the past to realize how much has changed.
It took a while, but it was worth it. it’s an excellent read for all ages

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